Ostracism Fear
Exclusion registers in the brain's pain circuitry and even trivial, anonymous exclusion reliably pushes people to conform and re-ingratiate; the threat of being left out is one of the strongest levers on behaviour.
An everyday example
Agreeing to a group decision you think is wrong because dissent would put you outside the circle.
What it can cost you
Compliance bought with the threat of exclusion; decisions made to stay in rather than to be right.
Warning signs
- I agreed to stay in.
- I felt physically bad at the idea of being left out.
One thing to do
Name the fear out loud to yourself, then ask what the group would actually do if you disagreed; most feared exclusions never happen.
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